Steps in the Dark

Have I mentioned that Brad just started his own business last month? He did. Have I mentioned that I was appointed bookkeeper and that I don't know the first thing about it? I was, and I don't. I also probably failed to mention how excited I am about this business ownership thing. That is because I am not really. Supportive, definitely. Excited? Um... not so much. I do not have what you would call an entrepreneurial spirit. I personally like the idea of working for the man. He offers a steady paycheck and a benefits package. What's so bad about that? In fact, when Brad turned down a salary plus benefits offer from one of the largest construction companies in New Mexico in favor of starting his own company, I must say that my reaction ranged between disbelief and nausea. I don't mean to imply that Brad's refusal of the job was a surprise to me. On the contrary. We consulted and prayed together for a long time before coming to an agreed decision. But once we received an answer from God, Brad never looked back. I sure did. He pretty much has more faith than I do. The next day he got an email from the construction company asking him to reconsider, and I responded, "Do it! Maybe they'll offer you more money!" Yeah, I know. I'm the devil. Well, maybe not the devil so much as Ms. Doubting Thomas. If Heavenly Father has a plan for me, I want the blueprints. None of this one step at a time stuff. Give me the details!

I told you. Faithless.

But not for long! My faith steadily increases as I have seen how carefully and lovingly Heavenly Father has been taking care of us. I've already made marked improvement: these days I only hyperventilate about once a week.

Like Weeds (But Prettier)

Why do children grow so quickly? Claire now laughs and grabs and rolls and scoots, and only a few months ago [a very few short months!] she was a limp little bean in my arms. Each minute holding my girls is bittersweet: another moment gone! I want them to grow up; I do. But I can't imagine it being as wonderful as having a baby in my arms.

Enough. No weeping allowed.

Have I mentioned how funny Grace is? Have I mentioned how impressionable she is? Here is reason number 387 for not having a TV: Grace has an amazing memory. On the rare occasion that she gets to stay up to watch one of mommy and daddy's Netflix movies, she seems to remember the most unfortunate parts. Last Friday at the zoo, while holding the hands of two little friends, she repeated a very regrettable four-letter word. She didn't use it in the correct context. It was so out of place, in fact, that I wondered whether she'd said it at all, but given her little friends on either side (and my friends surrounding me), I thought it best to discipline her on the spot. I was embarrassed. Which is why Grace is no longer allowed to watch mommy-daddy movies or "The Incredibles" anymore. (Am I the only one that didn't realize that commandment numero tres is repeatedly broken in that movie?) Anyway.

Also. Does anyone here have any brilliant ideas for potty-training? I think I missed my window of opportunity with Grace. Since that missed opportunity, I have tried "potty training in a day," the naked method (which has been fun in the winter... just kidding), and shameless bribery. I have several gifts sitting on her shelf in her bedroom waiting to be played with until she sits on the potty. Every once in a while, she'll tearily beg to play with those toys until I remind her, "Not until you sit on the potty!" At which point she will tearlessly say, "Oh," and drop the subject. I am at a loss.

Help me.

Those Pearly Whites

Two tiny teeth have torn through Claire's bottom gum this week. As her parent I know I should be bursting with pride over this anticipated milestone, but alas, I am selfish, and my gut reaction is to wince in pain. I am nursing, you know. And biting hurts.

I well remember the first time Grace bit me. Brad had gotten home and we were just sitting in our living room talking to each other. I like to do that. Anyway, probably in the middle of some hilarious story Brad was telling about work, Grace bit me. For my own satisfaction I will inform you (or remind you) that being bit *there* sends pain surges to every nerve in your body. So, in response, I pulled Grace off of me and yelled. Pretty loud. You know, just workin' through the pain.

Brad stared at me, a little shocked.

In defense, I told him, "She bit me!"

Brad's face didn't change a bit. He looked at me like I had just deafened him and said, "Don't you think that was probably a little bit of an overreaction?"

"Really. Hmm. I don't know, Brad. Is it? Have you ever had someone bite your nipple? Would you like to try? I'll show you overreaction!" At which point a chase ensued.

And that is one argument I did win.

An Ounce of Prevention...

Grace is a slave to routine. When the unexpected occurs, it's earth shattering, and she throws equally disturbing tantrums in response. So don't judge me too harshly for telling you that I nearly panicked when I got home from the grocery store to discover that I had only bought crunchy peanut butter. Not good. Creamy peanut butter and honey sandwiches are Grace's lunch staple. Everyday. I'm so healthy and creative, I know. So crunchy peanut butter was going to throw a pretty big wrench in our daily tradition, and the ensuing tantrum was going to make it impossible for me to fold laundry while she ate lunch. Do you have any idea how much laundry accumulates after three weeks of vacation? Well, thanks to my mother--child-care genius--I had a flash of inspiration. A la Betsy, I put my hand over my mouth, ready to burst with a big surprise. Grace knows this face. And she made it back.
I had her.

"Grace, guess what!" I said.

"What?"

"We have the most special kind of peanut butter today!!!"

[Surprised gasp]

"It has real peanuts in it!!!"

"It DOES?!"

"Yep, it sure does. You want to taste it?"

"Yummmm!!! REAL PEEEAANUTS!"

"Yep. We're so lucky, huh?"

"Yup. We are!"

I do what I have to do to stave off tantrum-induced insanity.

Just Kidding

Grace sometimes goes on crying too long. You can always tell when this happens becuase her tears dry up and her sobs become long, dry wails. It reminds me of Jean Arthur's fake wailing at the end of "The More the Merrier." You should really all see that movie. Anyway, at the point that Grace starts acting, I tell her she can keep crying in her bedroom, or she can stop crying by the count of three. Then I start counting. At the count of three, she always looks up at me with a smile and says, "Just Kidding!" It's remarkable. She's invented her own device to snap out of a bad mood. Can adults do that? I don't.

Today Grace and I were counting quarters. (Only up to fwerteen, of course.) We were sitting up on our brand-new, very tall couches, and I was having her count quarters, take quarters away, count again, add quarters back, count again, and... well, she was doing a great job. At every successful count, I tickeled her and shouted "YAY!!!!" She loved it. Too much. Her over-excited, celebratory couch jumping launched her backward, over the arm of the couch, into a head-first crash onto the brick hearth. Poor child. Her tears cascaded down her face and as I held her to comfort her and kiss it better, she rubbed her head, and between sobs made a hearty attempt to cheer herself up, "Just kidding..." And then she broke into genuine tears again. Well, that was enough to break my grinchy little heart in two.

Traveling with Grace

14 hours in a car with kids is too many.

1. At a gas station in Clines corners Grace stared in fascination at a man covered in tattoos. She turned to my mom and said, "We don't draw on our arms, Grandma Betsy."

2. At stores with big signs: "Look MOOMM!! It's my NAAAMME! It's the letter GEEEEE!!!" To her credit, she identifies the letter G (and L and S and C) very well, but I think my dad's poor ears would have benefitted from a more quiet identification. The kid is loud.

3. In an effort to keep her entertained: "Grace, honey, why don't you show mommy how you count to twenty?" "One, two, fwee, four, five, sits, seben, i-ete, nine, ten, leben, twelve, firteen, four, i-ete, two, four!" I guess thirteen is good enough.

4. Any time the word came up in an adult conversation (which happens more than you would think): "We DON'T say STUPID, Mommy!!"

5. At lunch time: "Gracie, do you think we should feed Claire too?" "Um, no. Cware, um, Cware eat Mommy's chest." Fabulous.

Home Again

We are back. And by "we," I mean me and the girls. Brad has been hanging out in Carlsbad by himself for a total of three lonely weeks (minus the four days he spent with us at Christmas). We returned to Utah for a short visit with family, but spent most of our time in Texas. After all the flying, driving, and living out of a suitcase, I am glad to be planted at home again.

For Christmas, my little sister gave Grace a hand-me-down "Hello Kitty" purse. Since we've been home, Grace carries it everywhere. Yesterday, after a diaper change for Claire, I couldn't find her anywhere. Panicked, I ran to the front door and found it open. I ran outside and saw Grace all the way down the block, purse over her shoulder, turning left onto Kuykendall. She laughed and tried to escape when she saw me booking it behind her. When I caught up to her she told me in exasperation, "Mo-om, I was just going to school." With her hair chopped off and a purse slung across her little body, she's getting too old too fast.

This morning I thought she was about to pull a similar stunt when she asked me to open the door for her and her stuffed animal kitty.

"Where are you going?" I asked.

"To the Future!!"

Too many viewings of "Meet the Robinsons," I think.